Review: Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well

Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well
Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well by Douglas Stone
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

I picked up this book because I hoped to become better at giving feedback that says what I mean and can be heard and used by the recipient. I also would like to get better at hearing and understanding what people are trying to say to me.

Notes –

Concept of pull, not push: Your growth comes from you, not your supervisor or whoever is evaluating you.

Receiving well: It doesn’t mean you have to agree. Manage your emotions so you can take in what is being communicated and suggested.

Appreciation: about relationships, human connection.
Coaching: giving direction, helping the other person improve, accelerate learning, focus efforts on where it matters.
Evaluation: assessment. Tells you where you stand.

Ask: Can you tell me more about what you mean? Can you detail what you’d like me to do?

We judge ourselves by our thoughts and intentions; other cannot see them. They see our actions and our impacts. Do they match our intentions?

Systems: There’s rarely on person at fault. Look at all the players: What do people need to succeed? How can each person adjust a little so everyone gets what they need? What assistance do you need to get this project done?

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